My husband is much less of a question mark to me now than he was when we first started dating. Back then, he was much more reserved than he was now (those of you who know him in real life are likely wondering how that's even possible, as he's still fairly quiet around most people), and serious conversations with him were liking pulling teeth. In fact, our song, which we played at our wedding, is Alison Krauss's When You Say Nothing at All. So, so perfect for us.
But as the years have gone by (how can it have been TEN years already?!), he has become less mysterious and more hilarious to me. And uncovering all of his quirks and idiosyncrasies along the way has been one of my favorite parts of our relationship. For example, Micah can't stand it when I squeeze his fingertips. And he doesn't like it when I tell him no... go figure... :). But he loves when I snuggle up next to him in church, and he likes to chase me around the house (which I'm actually not crazy about).
Now, we both make an effort to express love in ways that the other person will appreciate. I just ordered Micah his new iPhone without him having to ask so that he wouldn't have to deal with it. Micah tries to send me sweet texts and emails so that I feel appreciated.
And it also goes the other direction. I try to see his acts of service as expressions of love, and he does the same with my words of affirmation. And we both cherish the time we spend together, as work and long commutes keep us apart more often than we'd like. That way we're not overlooking the sacrifices and efforts the other is making.
You can figure out what your love languages are by taking an assessment here. (And, if you're lucky, you can hoodwink your spouse/significant other into taking one, too. :)) Hopefully it will be as eye-opening for you as it was for us. This marriage thing isn't always a cakewalk, but it is, without a doubt, the most rewarding part of my life.